How Do You Make Up After You Break Up?

So maybe I haven't broken up with anyone but it kind of feels like it. Friendships can be our most intimate non-romantic, non-familial relationships and they share many of the same features. If you think about it, your significant other is just a friend with a few more benefits and expectations. For any relationship to survive, trust is essential and when that is lost...it's only a matter of time.

Unfortunately that's exactly what has happened to me. I'm still furious over the circumstances of the fall out but I'm not focused on that anymore. As I move from depression to acceptance I wonder what happens now? In a place as small as Oberlin we're going to be seeing each other constantly. So how do you stop hurting each other? How can your wounds heal if the people who caused them are constantly there?

The relationships that I always found most difficult to get over is the ones where the person somehow remained in my life. And studying abroad excluded, I'm probably going to be running into them pretty often for the next two years. I'm not ready to forgive, and I can't forget. I know one day I'll be okay and maybe we'll even be okay. I'm not expecting things to go back to normal, nor do I necessarily want them to, but I hope there comes a time where I can see all of those who have hurt me in the past...and feel absolutely nothing. And that day can't come soon enough.